People ought to ask themselves: Is this similar to one thing I posted lately? Types of posts that ought to be minimized in quantity: posts about your youngsters, posts about political or social organizations, advertisements for companies (until it is actually particular or to announce that you’re beginning a enterprise), inspirational mottos, character exams and film quizzes. “Memories” posts ought to be restricted to issues which might be actually particular (similar to weddings), not simply your youngsters at an earlier age.
There is typically a setting for “See fewer posts like this,” however that isn’t all the time profitable. So it would assist if posters would comply with some tips.
Certainly. But presently, Miss Manners has her arms full asking people to not publish insulting rhetoric and lewd propositions. In the face of all-out verbal warfare, slipping in an additional image of their grandchild looks as if a fairly minor infraction. But please, knock your self out.
Dear Miss Manners: A revered educational mentor and later colleague is retiring from a significant college within the metropolis the place we each dwell. I’ve been invited to a giant retirement dinner at an area venue.
The invitation arrived by electronic mail from a university-sponsored web site. Under the RSVP menu, I used to be additional knowledgeable that dinner reservations and a money bar have been out there — at a value two or thrice what I would usually pay for a nice night time out. Although I can afford the occasional splurge, I used to be shocked. After discussing it with my spouse, I checked the “regrets” field.
We agreed that there are numerous concepts for having a celebration on a finances and/or cost-sharing, however this method was not one. Knowing the retiree, I do not suppose this was his thought, and I really feel a bit responsible over declining. I do plan to provide him a present and pay him a private go to.
Is this kind of pay-to-play occasion changing into frequent? Is there something I can or ought to say apart from politely declining?
Common or not, utilizing a retirement as a fundraiser by padding the price is unseemly — and hardly celebratory. Miss Manners feels to your good friend, who, as you say, was undoubtedly coerced into this brazen occasion in his identify.
If you need to be exceedingly gracious, you would possibly invite him to a easy ceremonial dinner at your house, telling him, “The university event seemed a bit impersonal. We would love to have you over to celebrate your retirement privately.” And if you feel cheeky, you would possibly add, “We promise not to charge for the drinks.”
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