I would really like to phrase the invitation: “We are pleased to announce our niece, Mia, has recently become engaged to Jordan, a delightful woman from Chicago. We would like you to join us for dinner on Saturday, March 15 at 6 to see Mia and meet Jordan. Please let me know if you can join us.”
I assumed it essential to add the “delightful woman” wordage as a result of her title might be a person’s or girl’s.
Does this sound acceptable? What do I do if folks ask about presents? It will probably be a small marriage ceremony out of city, so many of the friends is not going to be invited.
There isn’t any want to announce the rationale for having a dinner occasion, merely that you’re having it. This, Miss Manners factors out, is not going to solely remove the necessity for superfluous particulars, but additionally for friends asking about presents.
“Please join us for dinner on March 15 at 6 p.m.” will suffice. Then, on the dinner, give a toast to the completely satisfied couple, introduce your potential niece-in-law and announce their engagement. As a bonus, this plan will make it far much less impolite when these similar friends aren’t invited to the marriage.
Dear Miss Manners: I’ve been a part of a “family meal swap” for somewhat over a yr now, however not too long ago, the girl in cost specified a menu for everyone to cook dinner, together with particular elements and aspect dishes. When I joined this meal swap, I did it to style different households’ dishes and develop my very own cooking. Now I really feel sort of peeved that I’ve to cook dinner any individual else’s particular menu.
I don’t assume that it’s mistaken that I really feel this fashion, however I’m uncertain how to strategy it with the hostess. My first intuition is simply to lie and say I’m too busy after this primary month’s rotation, however I like and respect her sufficient that I really feel I ought to inform her the reality. Thoughts?
That you inform her why earlier than ghosting her: “I’m afraid that I must have misinterpreted the point of this meal swap. While your menu plan sounds tasty, I thought we were making and trying new dishes. I understand if, as hostess, you want to change the plan, but I’m afraid that I won’t be able to join anymore.”
And then Miss Manners asks that you just wait a decent period of time earlier than beginning up your personal meal swap and poaching all of this individual’s friends.
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