She has been making extra passive-aggressive remarks to me, not him, as we go on. Today she defined that her grandma taught her {that a} girl who doesn’t hold a clear home is mentally unstable. She teaches her youngsters this, as properly.
I used to be shocked, and I advised her that was an terrible factor to say. I’m fairly fed up and wish to tackle this subsequent time she comes. Should I simply let it go?
Have you mentioned this together with your associate? It appears to Miss Manners that he could be the higher one to have this chat with the cleansing woman — if for no different motive than the truth that her sexist proclivity would possibly make her extra apt to hear to him.
But whatever the final result, you’d do properly to go away the home any time it’s being cleaned. Or possibly that was this girl’s plan all alongside, in order that she may lastly fold and put away that looming pile of laundry with out objection.
Dear Miss Manners: What are your ideas on the knowledge or folly of gently informing a fellow driver that they’ve simply parked their automotive in order to take up two areas?
That anybody who is shameless sufficient to take up two parking areas is just not seemingly going to be open to suggestions, nevertheless mild it might be.
Sadly, and on your personal security, Miss Manners suggests you fume in silence.
Dear Miss Manners: My sister-in-law despatched us a textual content message with an invite, which I assume she took an image of, for her husband’s seventieth birthday celebration.
I’ve despatched many, many invites up to now. I’ve spent a variety of time getting ready them so they appear good and acceptable, then gathering mailing addresses (or e-mail addresses) earlier than sending them out within the mail (or electronically). I all the time need my friends to really feel vital after they get an invite.
However, receiving an invite by textual content doesn’t sit properly with me, and it makes me really feel unimportant. It is NOT pleasing.
What do you consider this? I’m considering of emailing her with a correct response, somewhat than sending a textual content message.
Or you could possibly go hog wild and write the letter by hand. That’ll train ’er!
Miss Manners supposes that this can be a good instance of the passive-aggressive recommendation she is usually accused of dishing out. But if it provides you satisfaction and doesn’t overtly insult the invitation issuer — complicated her is completely all proper — then she sees nothing incorrect with it. Just don’t be stunned when your sister-in-law ignores any handwritten invites and coerces you into sending textual content reminders anyway.
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