It is evident this isn’t a family-friendly cat. We have heaped love and toys on her, talked along with her vet, offered the correct meals, stimulation, quiet areas, and so forth., and it’s not working. The cat hisses each time anybody tries to get shut (besides when it is time to eat!), poops on the ground routinely — although now we have carried out ALL the vet’s recommendations about litterboxing — and causes numerous stress to me and my youngsters. She has attacked all three of us, fully unprovoked. I get alongside nice with different cats.
Is it ever okay to give a cat again to the shelter? I really feel she can be a lot happier in a distinct, quieter dwelling. My youngsters (12, 10) can be devastated, although they know I cope with 99 % of the cat points.
Anonymous: This feels like a depressing animal, so, sure, permitting the shelter to discover her a extra applicable dwelling may be the solely humane alternative you could have. Talk to the shelter workers. If you’re feeling ashamed — I’ve returned a pet, and felt terrible — then please let your self off the hook. The dwelling has to match.
Re: Cat: You really feel responsible about returning the cat due to your unhappiness. Would you are feeling higher about it should you reframed it as the cat’s unhappiness? Because that cat sounds fairly discontent.
Re: Cat: I’m a volunteer at an animal shelter. Returning an animal due to behavioral points isn’t uncommon or frowned upon by shelter workers. Some animals belong in a quieter family. “Anonymous” shouldn’t really feel responsible, nor topic her household and the cat right into a state of affairs that advantages neither.
Hi Carolyn: I’m discovering myself annoyed that my husband’s enjoyable actions have a tendency to take up one full weekend day per week. Golfing, fishing, searching … all take at the very least six hours and a few prep or breakdown time. I don’t know why I’m so annoyed, I don’t like to golf, hunt, or fish, so I don’t really feel like I’m lacking out on the enjoyable. We simply celebrated our two-year wedding ceremony anniversary and have been collectively for about seven years, and these aren’t brand-new actions he’s taken up.
Maybe it’s all the pandemic time at dwelling and political stress and upcoming occasions which have triggered my frustration … any concepts on how to cope/redirect these emotions can be nice.
Weekend Woes: Please, I encourage, discover one thing you want to do that may occupy a slab of your weekends. I’m not usually so bean-count-y, however that is going to gnaw at you until and till you could have one thing in your life to make you look ahead to these six-plus hours each weekend. Something to shift your thoughts from, “Why does he keep ditching me?” to [absorbed with chosen separate activity].
… Unless you begin to look ahead to weekends to be rid of him — however the entire level of my recommendation is to preempt that alienation.