I’ve already achieved years of remedy. Nothing helped.
But the one factor that did was holding these adults in my life accountable. When I filed a grievance towards a former physician, who nonetheless practices at this time, I discovered myself getting the justice I deserved for so lengthy. I even have an appointment to speak to high school officers a few potential investigation, and the police are subsequent. My intention is to carry 4 adults — who nonetheless have their jobs — and that group of boys accountable.
I’m feeling higher, however my husband isn’t so positive. I don’t reside in my hometown, however it’s small. All the individuals I’m accusing nonetheless reside there. I’m not scared, as a result of the reality is on my facet, and I’m not the one sufferer. Unlike my husband, I don’t care what occurs to the individuals I accuse. It’s not my accountability.
I don’t want my husband to agree with me, however I do want him to grasp. Also, if getting fired or embarrassed or labeled is the worst factor that occurs to any of those individuals, that hardly compares to what I endured.
Justice?: First, good good good for you. Go get all of them. Yes. Second, I’m sorry these items occurred to you.
Third, I’m sorry your husband’s sympathies lie, primarily, with the perps. I’m positive he doesn’t see it that approach, however typically issues truly aren’t sophisticated, and you probably have the info to show offenses for which these individuals will be held legally accountable, then that places the accountability for “what happens to the people I accuse” squarely onto them. For their very own wrongdoing.
Now, in fact, there will be penalties to an accusation even when there isn’t sufficient proof to support authorized accountability, however that’s a byproduct of our system. Your burden is to make certain you’re accusing the precise individuals of the precise issues, and as soon as met, you deserve your husband’s full support — except he’s frightened about what’s going to occur to you in doing this.
Which brings us to your comment, “I don’t need my husband to agree with me, but I do need him to understand.” When you utilize the phrase “need,” there’s an implied “or else.” As in: Humans want oxygen, or else they die. So you want your husband’s support, or else what? You can’t pursue justice? Can’t belief him as a companion? Can’t keep married? Can’t be at peace?
My recommendation is to think twice about your “or else,” then speak to your husband about it frankly. Such as: “I am doing this, with or without your support. If you can’t at least understand why, and recognize that their getting fired or embarrassed barely compares to what I endured, then I can’t ____.”
A settling of accounts typically does change into larger in scope as you go alongside, however you don’t want to listen to that from me. I like your braveness.
